MARRIAGE / RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING

Shifting Towards Empowerment

A connected and harmonious marriage can shift our family dynamics, help us sleep better, function more effectively, and increase our self-worth. Our job is to give you the tools and techniques to achieve a balanced and fulfilling marriage so you can direct your focus towards your life goals as opposed to your relationship challenges.

The success of therapy is directly correlated with the fit of your therapist for each partner’s unique needs, so choosing the therapist that’s the best for you is essential. Learn more about marriage counselling below and for support with finding the therapist that’s the best fit for your marriage, book online for a complimentary service where we’ll guide you through the process of how to choose a counsellor that’s the best fit to get you started. Book online today.

Relationships are directly linked to our quality of life

Our relationship supports the foundation of everything that we do. Our partners support us with our families, our work, our goals, our self-growth, and we support our partners to be better, do better, and dream bigger. Research has shown that people that are feeling connected in their romantic relationship, are happier, more effective at work, have higher self-worth and rate themselves higher in life-contentedness than those who feel disconnected or stuck in their relationship.

Long-term relationships require communication strategies tailored to your partner, languages of love that are context dependant, and healing our partner’s attachment style in a way that promotes independence and equality. Counselling is a tool to increase your effectiveness of communication, decreasing misunderstandings and cumulative pain, and shift your relationship to be in alignment with who you want to be as a partner, and what you’ve always wanted in a relationship.

Relationship Counselling

What is modern-day Marriage Counselling anyways?

Marriage Therapy encompasses couples counselling, conflict resolution, communication strategy, romantic support, and sex therapy within a relationship with one or more people to facilitate behavioural change and emotional understanding of ourselves and our partners.

Relationship counsellor and relationship therapist are used interchangeably and have the same regulatory license as individual therapists (Registered Clinical Counsellors in BC or Certified Canadian Counsellor across Canada). Having these licenses dictate that the therapist has a Master’s Degree and above and is held accountable to a professional organization ethically and legally. A relationship therapist has this/these license(s) and has additional training in therapies specific to relationships like Gottman Therapy or Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT).

Relationship therapy is not the stereotypical couples counselling where the therapist shames you for your mistakes, prescribes unsolicited sex exercises, chooses sides, or pretends like they know your relationship better than you do, and it’s not only for relationships that are doomed to begin with. Much like individual therapy, relationship therapy is about quality of life. Often relationships can make it through a crisis without the support of a counsellor, however having a counsellor speeds up the healing process, increases efficiency of communication and helps partners decide what to prioritize from a neutral standpoint.

Relationship counsellors can have specializations underneath the umbrella of relationship therapy. For example, a relationship therapist could be well-versed in navigating familial conflict, sex, trauma, or parenting. Often these concerns overlap, and a relationship therapist typically has experience in multiple commonly related areas.

If this is resonating, what this means for you:

That’s what we are here for. No judgment, scientifically founded therapy with no waitlists and authentically real, non-burnt-out therapists that specialize in navigating what pieces in your relationship are holding you back from a higher quality of life so you can focus on life outside of your relationship, and have a relationship that continues to promote happiness, growth, and confidence.

Expectations we should all have for our relationship therapist:

 

As relationship therapists...

It is our job to guide the relationship to a place where there is hope, effective and transparent communication, and to direct the relationship utilizing common goals and values.

It's the therapist's job to be...

Unbiased: all parties in relationship therapy should feel heard and understood by the relationship therapist. Relationship therapy provides a space for feedback from a neutral source.

Therapy is where...

Feelings of frustration, hopelessness, and fear are motivators for change. Relationships are challenging, and our feelings surrounding our relationship do not have to reflect outcomes. 

Relationship therapy starts..

Exactly where you are, and is dictated by establishing conflict priorities, and focusing on shifting patterns in the relationship to stop re-occurring conflicts and compounding emotional pain.

Relationship therapy can be...

As straight-forward or as gentle as you like. It’s ok if partners have different preferences with a therapist, it’s on the therapist to accommodate both sets of needs.

A therapist should be...

Be someone you can laugh with, cry with and talk about sex with (even if it’s not on your radar for counselling). This is an assessment strategy for comfort as finding the right fit for each partner is vital in ensuring success.

Finding a Marriage Counsellor is easy as...

Booking a complimentary counsellor-match service where partners can attend a phone consultation and be guided through the process of what traits are needed in your relationship counsellor. Book the consult here.

Prior to marriage counselling, it’s ok if you are feeling:

  • Stuck in a set of patterns within their relationship
  • The desire to re-start the relationship
  • Unseen or insignificant
  • Hopeless in having your ideal relationship
  • Difficulty in letting go of past conflicts
  • Difficulty in understanding your partner’s decisions and behaviours
  • Resentment towards your partner’s trajectory of self-growth
  • Uncertainty over which partner’s needs to prioritize
  • Like you’re not the partner you want to be
  • Lost in how to support your partner(s)
  • Grief towards the relationship you imagined yourself to be in
  • Unsure of the difference between acceptance and resignation
  • Fear surrounding upcoming life transitions
  • Regret around relationship decision making
  • Guilted into going into relationship therapy because someone is encouraging it
  • The desire to have a therapist in their back pocket, for life’s unforeseen events or as a backup plan if things go sideways

Our Appointment Fees:

Marriage Therapy

$230

/ 50 minutes
(Plus GST)
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Marriage Extended

$320

/ 80 minutes
(Plus GST)
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Need help finding a counsellor?

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